How to Survive the Holidays With a Newborn

Written By Rachael McGauley

(And Actually Enjoy Them)

The holidays are supposed to be magical.
But if you’re celebrating with a newborn, “magic” might look a little more like spit-up on your sweater, unwrapped presents on the floor, and a baby who just won’t nap.

If you’re feeling torn between family traditions and your baby’s schedule (or your own exhaustion), you’re not alone. The holiday season can bring a lot of pressure for new parents, to show up, host, or do it all with a smile.

Here’s the truth: you don’t owe anyone your energy right now.

Boundaries Are a Love Language

Everyone wants to see the baby, and they should! But constant visitors can leave you depleted.

Before the holidays hit full swing, have a gentle conversation with your partner about what feels realistic.
Decide ahead of time:

  • Who you’re okay seeing (and when)

  • How long you’re comfortable hosting

  • What “help” actually looks like (hint: someone holding the baby while you nap counts!)

Boundaries protect your peace and your healing.

Ditch the Guilt

You might skip the big dinner, turn down travel plans, or stay in PJs all day. Guess what? That’s not failure. That’s smart parenting.

Your baby doesn’t need the perfect holiday. They need a calm, rested parent.

If you start feeling that creeping guilt about not “doing enough,” try this simple reframe:

“I’m doing exactly what’s best for my family right now.”

You can’t pour from an empty cup, but you can sip hot cocoa from one while baby naps. ☕

Plan Small, Celebrate Slow

Instead of trying to fit in every tradition, choose one or two simple things that make the season feel special:

  • Matching PJs and a cozy movie night

  • A photo in front of the tree

  • Lighting a candle and reflecting on your baby’s first holiday

Keep it easy. Keep it slow. That’s the magic you’ll actually remember.

Accept (and Ask For) Help

If a loved one offers to bring food, clean, or run an errand, say yes!
If you don’t have help nearby, that’s where a postpartum doula comes in.

We help families:

  • Rest and recover

  • Manage daily tasks

  • Navigate feeding and sleep

  • Feel supported and less overwhelmed

You don’t need to do the holidays (or early parenthood) alone.

Make Rest a Tradition

New parents deserve calm, not chaos.
This year, give yourself permission to slow down. To nap, say “no,” and make rest your new holiday tradition.

If you could use a little extra support this season, our team would love to help.

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Whether you gift it to yourself or someone else, we promise we’ll never tell.

 
Rachael McGauley
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